Probably not growing in your yard right now…but how about in your relationships?
As the holidays are upon us, many people are reminded that all may not be well on their lawn of life. And as we plan to gather, some family or social interactions may be less than ideal.
Weeds of bitterness, jealousy, shame, anger and fear can ruin your enjoyment of relationships and get a stranglehold on your sense of peace and joy during the holiday season.
They can show up as ugly, undesirable feelings, cross, unkind words or unloving attitudes. But you can tackle and remove them! Just like in your garden, you just need to
Prepare the ground and Prepare yourself.
1 – Prepare the ground
Spend time in prayer asking God to go before you and to be at work in the situation causing you pain. He may choose to change the circumstances, but He may also choose to change something in you. Be willing to accept what God tells you is needed. Ask Him to work in the circumstances and in the lives of any people involved.
If you need to go to someone and talk to them, ask God to safeguard the time set aside for the meeting and prepare their hearts to help you remove the weed between you. Also ask God to send the Holy Spirit to be in control of the interaction and guide both your words and the other person’s responses.
2 – Prepare yourself
Go forward in the full armor and protection of God. To be cleansed by His perfect forgiveness, confess any sin in your life. Be especially specific involving the “weed” situation you are working on. Ask for and accept His forgiveness, cleansing you from your sin and removing guilt and shame.
Next prayerfully ask God to give you His perspective on the problem. He may want to teach you something through this difficulty. Ask for His will to be done in the situation. Ask God for wisdom to show you how to get a grip on and remove the root of the issue. Pray on every piece of the armor of God found in Ephesians 6:10-18 to protect you from anything during any interaction with the other person, and anything that might keep the “weed” alive in your life to defeat you.
You may discover that the biggest, meanest looking weeds give way easily when God has prepared both you and the ground.
Don’t be afraid to tackle the weeds! Keep pulling on them and working the ground till they give way and are gone! In this way, you can be victorious and enjoy the holidays with healthy, positive relationships growing unencumbered in your new, weed-free life!